So yesterday, I watched a movie about modern love or should I say dating? As usual I went in blind to pick a movie I was going to watch. As long as it's not horror which I won't watch, and looking for Parent's Guide if it's a Thriller genre.
This movie is slow pace and I actually loved it (except the ending) because it doesn't sugarcoat things. It's not a fancy movie.
This movie showed how modern dating works. Dating apps. Swipe swipe. Hook up and things. Choosing dates based on appearance. Instant. Put feelings aside. Tragic. Oh and about an open relationship to keep their romance fresh. Meh.
Sometimes I feel how fucked-up it is to have an open relationship. For me it's not about love anymore, it's about playing games, ego, and not knowing what actually you want in one period of time. Running in circle. Self destructive. False sense of security. Not get their shits together. Greedy. Cold dead heart. Basically license to cheat. Infidelity is infidelity. There's no transaction or bargain. End of story.
Yup, that's including Emotional Affair.
What kind of person who let their partner sleeps and fucks around with a bunch of different potentials in order to get supplies to full fill the big void in their cold heart?
If you want an open relationship then find a partner who wants to be in an open relationship too, as fucked up as you are, mutually. Don't mess with others who don't accept that concept, especially 'cheating' and crossing boundaries with someone who don't know what kind of term you're in. Don't waste other's time.
In this movie, even though you are in an open relationship and all about those transparency, there are still a lot of things that you still hide from your partner (in this movie the main characters are mutually in an open relationship, well one of them kind of new in this term but still play along). Sad. What a sad generation.
I mentioned that I didn't like how this movie end. Although the main character finally realized that an open relationship didn't work and not good for their beings and health, damaging, how self-destructive it is, they actually got back together and wanted to be serious haha . And that's not my problem. I just didn't like how the woman character was ruining the man's life (this was all her idea -- open relationship thing but hey it takes two to tango) and that easy getting back into his life again with tears. *rolling eyes*
There's one scene that made me shocked, my eyes warm and teary. It was when the man finally met with his ex wife when his current fucked up girlfriend moved to his sugar daddy's house (his ex wife had miscarriage when they were together, and this man ran away from all the problem though he wanted and got excited for their pregnancy). He hasn't moved on from her before, it'd been 6 something years. She has a baby with her new partner and named him the same name I want my future first kid to have.
This scene itself got me teleported to that specific time in a split second. I thought "oh that name, maybe coincidence" also me don't believe in coincidence.
But THEN the man said "(repeated his name)? Like (first name of that star)?"
Well there's that. It's the same name and the same person I got inspired too.
Then the ex wife said "I know.." I bet it's also the same name the ex husband and her planned to give their first baby.
And in those seconds I truly got teleported to that one particular session and I burst into tears.
And no. I won't mention the title of this movie.
And Yes. I get no Open Relationship in my personal dictionary.